Feelings I Felt at the Diner Tyler

The Diner Tyler

Irritation (slight): At my hotel, no free breakfast materialized. They’d installed a Starbucks instead. Imagine. So rather than pay $11 for a breakfast there, I went to a local diner with good reviews and spent $12. More irritation arose, however, when the waitstaff asked, “What are we having today?” It’s not my place to correct her, but many possibilities come to mind. When the dog groomer asks if I’m there to pick up my baby, I say, “No, I’m here for my dog.”

Envy mixed with joy: Across the room sat grandparents with two grandsons. Supposition, of course, but a decent one. The older boy was talking about an event in which he took 4th place. He didn’t seem upset though, just reporting. Other than that, I didn’t hear any other conversation until their waitperson brought the food. And yes, was there food. I wasn’t sure the table would hold it: plates of potatoes and meats, French toast, eggs. And gravy. When the younger boy took his first bite of a biscuit dipped in gravy, he said, “Wow!” A nice level of appreciation for the deliciousness, I thought. The grandad reached over for a bite of potato dipped in the gravy. (Old joke: “Know how you can tell Texans in a restaurant? They eat off each other’s plates.”) Personally, I didn’t order any gravy or potatoes—that would have added up quickly. Odd that’s all the conversation I heard.

The envy and joy? I would love to have been sitting there with my grandparents, eating gravy and not worrying about calories or cost. It’s been a long time since I did.

Love: A young family came in—mother, father, a 2-1/2-year-old little boy—and ordered water to drink. The dad took the child off to the restroom, walking. They came back with the child being carried. Nothing unusual. The child was a bit boisterous in his booth seat and bumped his head. His face had that look you’ve seen a hundred times: the serious forehead, the wide eyes, the tears just held back, the lull before the storm. In a flash, he knew what to do and hopped onto his dad’s lap. And what a sweet enfolding it was. Total wrapping. I couldn’t see the boy’s face, just the dad’s. Glowing, smiling, content. One of many, I’m sure. He looked so happy to have a little son to comfort. A mutual benefit. Love like that is contagious, and I could feel it too.

A good experience, all in all. We had an egg, a sausage patty, and two slices of French toast, with warm syrup. I did not have to share it with the waitperson.

And on to the Tyler Rose Garden…happier than when I arrived.

On Easter

dlsdcfA friend has been posting lesser-known paintings of the Crucifixion recently. At least to me they have been, with a few exceptions. Wikipedia offers this summary of both art and music through the ages. Depictions of crucifixions did not begin until the 5th century but continue into our day.

Musically, the most famous works about this part of the Gospels are by Johann Sebastian Bach, his St. Matthew Passion and the St. John Passion. Both are very long, at three hours and almost two. The one chorale familiar to most is “O Haupt voll Blut und Wunden.” The translation is usually “O Sacred Head Now Wounded; here is a simple setting with Bach’s harmonization of Hans Leo Hassler’s melody. It’s in my hymnal as “O Savior, Thou Who Wearest a Crown” (with the big choir) with text by Karen Davidson. Here by a popular quartet, Gentri. The melody is one that is in a minor key but resolves to a Picardy third (major chord) on the last note; it’s sometimes called the “happy chord.”

Texts from what are traditionally called “The Seven Last Words of Christ” (actually 7 sentences) have been set by many composers. Here a Jesuit site offers an overview, the passages of scripture, and a homily highlighting each. The rock opera Jesus Christ Superstar (1973) has a version, but I’m not a fan.

Last week, one of my friend’s choices was the remarkable Salvador Dali depiction of the Last Supper. Dali also has several Crucifixion works. At the Met, we find “Cruxificion (Corpus Hypercubus)” which is rather cold, in my opinion; it was Ayn Rand’s favorite work, for whatever that may mean. The cross is a tesseract. In Glasgow at the Kelvingrove, when I was there last year, I did not find “Christ of St. John of the Cross.” It was on loan. I had looked forward to seeing the original because it’s one of those paintings that needs to be seen in person. I guess all do, but this one has a perspective and detail that just don’t translate into a print. A dear friend chose it for his office. We do not see Christ’s face, just the top of his head, as the Father would view the scene.

When I saw my friend’s post on Dali, I commented on the crucifixion painting, which she knew and planned to post. I remembered my late friend and my trip’s disappointment. As I was listening to a Great Books podcast about a work called “Dark Night of the Soul” by St. John of the Cross, I learned that it was his tiny 2”x2-1/2” drawing that Dali used as inspiration for his work. This happened as I was driving by Avilla Estates in Arlington; Avila was near St. John of the Cross’s birthplace. It all seemed rather startling at the time.

For years, I’ve heard the phrase “dark night of the soul” and assumed it had to do with a crisis of faith, which it does. I didn’t know it was a poem by our Spanish priest. The poem from which it comes (same title) is very short, but I am not sure what it means. Brief research suggests it’s to do with purification and “unselfing.” (The latter is the topic of my winning poem, which I cannot publish under rules of the contest.) Personal readings on request. My next encounter had more hope than this one.

In another podcast, Honestly, Bari Weiss interviewed Ross Douthat about his new book, Believe: Why Everyone Should Be Religious. They discuss why it’s logical to believe in God, from multiple perspectives. Near the end of the episode, she brings up people who believe that artificial intelligence will render humans obsolete. The answer, however, that Douthat gives is the primacy of the Divine: We should believe because it’s true.

Now back to the art. The guest on the Great Books podcast, Silvina Sironi, said about the tiny drawing, “It’s not like anything else of its time.” The perspective, the purpose, the size—none of it reflects the 16th century. Was he drawing a vision or a dream? No one knows.

Forward now to the point of this narrative. Recently, an interfaith discussion led to questions about how all this could happen, how a loving God would expect such a sacrifice. And with all these supporting—and sometimes odd—experiences, where would the sense of it come?

Execution on the cross was agonizing, intentionally so, and reserved for the worst criminals. That is was the Christ suffering, even though to fulfill prophecy, was only part of the story. People make what we call the ultimate sacrifice in every generation. Or ask any mother what she would do to save a child. No, they are not divine, but the direction of intent is the same.

The difference came before, in the Garden of Gethsemane. No one saw it happen. Perhaps the resurrected Jesus explained the agony. Perhaps the Holy Ghost shared the scene with those who wrote of it. All we can know is that it happened, and in the pain so intense that the Savior bled from every pore, he took on himself every instance of human suffering—the punishment for sin, yes, but also all pains and grief, all loneliness and fear—in that one moment we call the Atonement, the at-one-ment, which is not a linguistic trick but a contraction of the two words. Humankind reconciled to God, healing the breach from Eden, if we will accept the offering.

This children’s song explains the story, and this version has had 1.3 million views because of the interpretation of one passage. But it’s easy to miss part of the power: notice the verb change from “So He gave this gift to me” and then “So He gives this gift to me.” It continues, now and forever

it’s not that I understand this any better or more deeply than anyone else. The concept of forgiveness is the key, and perhaps the pattern of repentance and forgiveness is not easily shared. But it matters. The response from us need not be the sacrifice of a lamb, as another interfaith friend suggested. Instead, we can offer everything we are. Not have, but are.

 

 

 

Over and Way More; or, Uber and Waymo

The story itself is neither funny nor horrifying; it’s a mixture of both. Further comparisons and implications? Maybe. Last week, I was in Austin with 50 other members of my church to meet with legislators and mostly their chiefs of staff—who are arguably more important anyway. Traffic and parking in Austin are (insert negative adjective), so we were to Uber from our landing spot near the UT campus down to the Capitol. Carpooling, of course, because, well, 50 of us. What a delight to try my first ride in a driverless/autonomous car. (No “!” is the story.) The Uber/Waymo partnership is described here with a jab/diversion into Tesla, Musk, and Austin.

The car was a Jaguar. My dream car was once an XJ6, seen here in 1980; the current price would be $82,295.96. Was there a tinge of fear? Yes. But still very cool, until we pull up at our “destination.” We were at 101 East 15th Street, not 1100 Congress Avenue. With no driver to talk to, we punched the button for a human. The first human was ever so sorry, asked us to get out and walk, and, when rebuffed, sent us to human #2. He used the word “try” a great deal and developed a plan using a different address that was near the Capitol but not on Congress.

Off we went but rode significantly past 11th street. We didn’t panic, exactly, because at about 8th street we made two left turns taking us north again. Suddenly, Waymo turned down an alley. And stopped. “You have arrived.” We pressed the button again. Human #3 was indeed sorry and sent us to Human #4. She was quite firm in her assertion that she could not help us. “They think they’re done and won’t change,” she explained. “I can send a human driver (I think she said “human” but maybe not) to take over.” No, we were already late and, of course, had all the handouts needed for the group. A brief discussion revolving on the concept of not paying for services not received ensued. Human #4 was so sorry about that, too, and would look into the matter. In other words, get out and walk. Which we did. Google Maps provided the path. It was a lovely day, and we were excited to meet the day. It wasn’t all that far.

One part of Human #4’s response was troubling, however. Apparently, such mistakes are common. Very common. She almost made it seem like the occurrences were in the thousands. Maybe she was trying to emphasize her experience.

We could stop here except another Human who heard the story assumed I was going to compare this debacle to the recent tariff/market/trade war debacle. I was flattered. Having written about puffins clacking beaks just two weeks ago, I know that I don’t know enough to do such a thing. It seemed like a bad call—rollercoaster doesn’t begin to touch the chaos that can be seen in the chart. If you can write another piece discussing driverlessness in government, go for it. A play on words featuring “Waymo” might be a starting point. I’ve got some pruning to do.

Making Peace by Becoming a Peace Maker

Last week I wrote about being wrong. This week, I was also in the same boat, with others, but I began reading a book by Steve Collis that begins with the principle that people are often wrong. Habits of a Peace Maker: 10 Habits to Change Our Potentially Toxic Conversations into Healthy Dialogues. Chapter One begins with his childhood encounter with Nair. He calls the first chapter “Intellectual Honesty and Reframing.” That sounds hard to me, but the final page summarizes the concept like this: A peacemaker will understand how little they know. allowing learning and acknowledging the humility of that recognition. Framing or reframing continues the willingness to be productive and constructive rather than showing the other person where they’re wrong. Finally, some people who really are experts need to follow the same pattern rather than using expertise to dominate. (All things being equal, I like the image of the beak-clacking puffins as a negative example.)

Chapter Two leans into the problem of the first. Habit Two is “Seek Real Learning.” And it’s long, 53 pages. Having not read the rest of the book, I don’t yet understand why. As usual, I’m still waiting for someone to ask my opinion on such things. He begins with a hoax perpetrated by a New York newspaper in 1835. A journalist reported that a scientist using a new and powerful telescope in the southern hemisphere was able to see the occupants of the moon. Read more about the Great Moon Hoax here. The truth came out, of course, but that didn’t ruin the paper; in fact, readership stayed high for over a hundred more years.

Hollis begins by quoting Isaac Newton’s 1675 letter to Richard Locke, “If I have seen farther (than others), it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.” He then gives the history of that concept. No one is creating new ideas out of nothing. A discussion of dopamine-seeking follows, a topic I’ve also written about. And assessing news sources. He chooses to highlight AllSides Media Bias Chart instead of Ad Fontes Media. They use columns left to right rather than a pyramid, but I have his email and will introduce him to that resource. The following summary of the chapter highlights the details of his in-depth analysis:

Peace makers engage in real learning by…

  • Understanding that we generate knowledge together.
  • They know what obstacles we face. He includes here “foreign actors.” Yes, the Russians really do hire people to confuse us and play us against each other. Here is an example set in Texas for which they organized competing protesters.
  • They break free from technological manipulation. The apps developers don’t’ care about us.
  • They are cautious with catchphrases and slogans. His example here is Black Lives Matter and a coach who was able to navigate the controversy without getting fired.
  • They are intentional about how they get their news. Another topic I’ve explored.
  • They acquire knowledge in real time. Smartphones are great at finding small facts quickly. On a bit larger scale, my example comes from a friend who sent a list with many details about the evils of illegal aliens (Grammarly asks me to say “undocumented immigrants,” but that’s what she was doing). Not only had I seen it before, but I had also known it was completely debunked years ago. She didn’t take it well, but nothing could be done.
  • They are slow to come to conclusions. You know the phrase “leap to conclusions.” We all know people who complete our sentences. His example is much more serious—the 1962 Cuban crisis. It’s a fascinating story if you didn’t live through it.
  • They respect spiritual learning. This may seem unusual, but peace is after all the goal of most religions. He begins with Francis Collins (not currently popular because of NIH and Covid policies), the leader of the human genome project and a man of deep faith. He wrote one of my favorite books, The Language of God: A Scientist Presents Evidence for Belief. A non-believer, writing about those with faith, noted that he gained respect for faith by listening to sophisticated believers.

So, the longest chapter will take a more thorough consideration. I hope I can just not all back to speaking to soon.

Owls—are they really wise? No. In literature, they have been depicted that way for millennia. The Greek god of wisdom, Athena, had as her symbol the owl. They are good hunters but not as bright as crows, for example. Our photo will go for looks this time.